There’s a poem I tried to write about
bathing you the last day you were alive.
On one of our drives home:
I want to die without shame.
You didn’t elaborate.
I described standing across from a stranger
paid to do this work, her presence
anchoring me in the task
with you between us.
From this distance I can use the word task.
Your pain the astrologer said A gift
for others
A mixing bowl
filled with warm water
we dipped washcloths into before
wringing them out
rested between your legs.
The phrase utilitarian tenderness served
some containing purpose
I needed at the time.
A great effort
to come up to the surface of yourself
to say what you said to us.
A student writes two lines
about an aging parent
they think are boring and may cut.
That poem did not belong
to language, and surpassed touch
Dough rising somewhere
under a red and white
dishtowel in that bowl
Copyright © 2025 by Ari Banias. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on August 27, 2025, by the Academy of American Poets.