Sometimes I wish I were still out on the back porch, drinking jet fuel with the boys, getting louder and louder as the empty cans drop out of our paws like booster rockets falling back to Earth and we soar up into the summer stars. Summer. The big sky river rushes overhead, bearing asteroids and mist, blind fish and old space suits with skeletons inside. On Earth, men celebrate their hairiness, and it is good, a way of letting life out of the box, uncapping the bottle to let the effervescence gush through the narrow, usually constricted neck. And now the crickets plug in their appliances in unison, and then the fireflies flash dots and dashes in the grass, like punctuation for the labyrinthine, untrue tales of sex someone is telling in the dark, though no one really hears. We gaze into the night as if remembering the bright unbroken planet we once came from, to which we will never be permitted to return. We are amazed how hurt we are. We would give anything for what we have.
Tony Hoagland - 1953-2018
In Praise of Their Divorce
And when I heard about the divorce of my friends, I couldn't help but be proud of them, that man and that woman setting off in different directions, like pilgrims in a proverb —him to buy his very own toaster oven, her seeking a prescription for sleeping pills. Let us keep in mind the hidden forces which had struggled underground for years to push their way to the surface—and that finally did, cracking the crust, moving the plates of earth apart, releasing the pent-up energy required for them to rent their own apartments, for her to join the softball league for single mothers for him to read George the Giraffe over his speakerphone at bedtime to the six-year-old. The bible says, Be fruitful and multiply but is it not also fruitful to subtract and to divide? Because if marriage is a kind of womb, divorce is the being born again; alimony is the placenta one of them will eat; loneliness is the name of the wet-nurse; regret is the elementary school; endurance is the graduation. So do not say that they are splattered like dropped lasagna or dead in the head-on collision of clichés or nailed on the cross of their competing narratives. What is taken apart is not utterly demolished. It is like a great mysterious egg in Kansas that has cracked and hatched two big bewildered birds. It is two spaceships coming out of retirement, flying away from their dead world, the burning booster rocket of divorce falling off behind them, the bystanders pointing at the sky and saying, Look.