I’m Dating a Man Who’s Married

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to a man who’s dating a man who’s                                                         
married to a woman. The husband

of the man I’m dating knows he’s
dating me and my boyfriend knows his

husband is dating the man who’s
married to the woman who does not

know her husband is gay. The guy
she’s married to—the boyfriend

of my boyfriend’s husband—just told
his mom he’s gay and she’s happy

because she never liked his wife
which is kind of funny but mostly

sad and I feel sad that her husband
who’s dating a man is also a man

with a mother who has never liked her.
I tell my boyfriend to tell his husband

to tell his boyfriend that he needs
to tell his wife sooner rather than later

and I know he knows that but still it needs
to be said. My boyfriend said his husband

said his boyfriend plans to tell his wife
Memorial Day weekend when his grown

kids are home from college and everyone,
I imagine, is eating potato salad by the pool.

She works at a flower shop two towns
over. I want to go there when she’s not

there and buy her flowers, leave a note
with her coworker at the counter:

              You deserve happiness, Natalie.
              You deserve love.

              Love,

              Your husband’s boyfriend’s
              husband’s boyfriend.

Credit

Copyright © 2025 by Aaron Smith. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on August 19, 2025, by the Academy of American Poets.

About this Poem

“I wanted this poem to seem like gossip and to sound convoluted in the way these scenarios sound when we try to convey them. (Also, if you think this poem is about someone you know, it is.)”
Aaron Smith