OBIT [Frontal Lobe]

My   Father’s   Frontal    Lobe—died

unpeacefully of a stroke on June 24,

2009 at Scripps  Memorial Hospital in

San Diego, California.  Born January 20,

1940, the frontal lobe enjoyed a good

life.  The frontal  lobe  loved being  the

boss.  It tried to talk again but someone

put a bag over it.  When the frontal

lobe died, it sucked in its lips like a

window pulled shut.  At the funeral for

his words, my father wouldn’t stop

talking and his love passed through me,

fell onto the ground that wasn’t there. 

I could hear someone stomping their

feet.  The body is as confusing as

language—was his frontal lobe having a

tantrum or dancing?  When I took my

father’s phone away, his words died in

the plastic coffin.  At the funeral for his

words, we argued about my

miscarriage. It’s not really a baby, he

said.  I ran out of words, stomped out

to shake the dead baby awake.  I

thought of the tech who put the wand

down, quietly left the room when she

couldn’t find the heartbeat.  I

understood then that darkness is falling

without an end.  That darkness is not

the absorption of color but the

absorption of language.

Credit

Copyright © 2020 by Victoria Chang. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on March 3, 2020 by the Academy of American Poets.

About this Poem

“My father had a stroke maybe twelve years ago—he's had a few brain bleeds since then and about twenty falls, and I've noticed I like counting as a way to make order out of the disarray that is illness and death. This poem is part of a group of poems named OBIT, shaped in the form of newspaper obituaries written after my mother died about five years ago. I wrote a bunch of these OBITs to try to distill grief, to make sense out of things that didn't (and still don't) make sense. I was just talking to my workmate today about illness being a series of little deaths. Here in this poem my father's frontal lobe dies, and is just one of the many little deaths along our journey together.”

Victoria Chang