After a Rochester Wedding

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my girlfriend drives us south. There’s a smear
of hot pink on the asphalt. From the passenger’s seat
I twist my head back. Did you see that? Only a flash,
until a few miles later. Again, then again, then a whole

velvet deer burst on the shoulder, and now everything is pink.
She stares ahead and holds my hand. She has asked
me not to notice these things, but I am a glutton
for how quickly the body becomes something different.

Before we met, I imagined a wedding like this. But— 
not this. She stood with the other bridesmaids in champagne.
I followed their husbands, snuck away for hot wings with them
between the ceremony and reception. It was so strange.

The bride was so beautiful. Her family, so kind. The chicken?
The most delicious I have ever eaten, and that made it all
worse, as I jostled with the husbands over the succulent drumsticks,
startled by the unexpected ease of flesh sundered from bone.

Now, there’s a light rain. She stares ahead. The grey, the pink,
her hand—will we always unknow each other in this way?
I want the whole carcass. I want to roam the caverns of her body,
loving her like an animal howling its own name.

Credit

Copyright © 2025 by Anja Mei-Ping Kuipers. Originally published in Poem-a-Day on June 27, 2025, by the Academy of American Poets.

About this Poem

“I wrote this poem after attending a spree of heterosexual weddings with my girlfriend and grappling with the emotions that arose: jealousy, shame, joy, self-loathing, disdain. As a queer person, being in a space that so inevitably and explicitly values heterosexual partnership is incredibly confronting. At the same time, is there anything more delightful than the spectacle of a wedding? This poem doesn’t seek to refute, but it is unabashed as it reaches towards a bodied, roaming desire.” 
—Anja Mei-Ping Kuipers